and needs that are separate from hers. It is important to realise comparative Analysis on Teen and Adult Depression that this isnt relationship. TL;DR Dont have kids because your parents want you. That is the day we really should celebrate, but usually we know little about this day. This is why we call our therapy Identity-oriented Therapy. As a troubled teenager in the following years my self-hatred drove me to many self-destructive habits including self-injury, anorexia and bulimia, and a drug problem.
I remember one day when I was about five years old putting on my snow coat, going out into the yard, and laying down in the snow. This sets up an impossible internal psychological dynamic of self-hatred, self-denial, and self-abuse the child internalises the perpetrator mother and becomes a perpetrator to herself, ignoring and belittling her own wants and desires, subjugating her will to that of her internalised perpetrator mother. It felt like the bottom fell out of my world that afternoon.
There can be no authentic self life; there can only be an endless repetition of the early pre-birth relational dynamics. I know plenty of children who grew up in much worse environments full of physical, sexual, and verbal abuse. I wasnt exactly suicidal, I just felt that my being was problematic and wanted to cease being. More common is the situation where a mothers psyche is split due to her own early traumatisation. If the mother is clear in her own psyche, has predominant access to her healthy psyche,.e. And of course I felt responsible and like if I was a better child maybe I could make her happy and fix her pain. Access to contraception and legalized abortion have minimized the occurrence of unwanted births. A trauma of identity is inevitable, and to survive this the child splits his psyche and is forced to give up on his healthy wanting self and identify with his perpetrator mother, and her wants. The extent of his travel afterward was some camping trips with. Yet, however late it comes, adoption is always preferable to the relative deprivation a child experiences when institutionalized. The child cannot reject what he is fed, or any part of the mother. It takes many steps, many intentions, many explorations using the Intention Method but each step, each intention feeds the next step and the next intention.
This sets up an impossible dynamic that becomes. They never treated me like an unwanted child. My dad threw himself into physically demanding jobs for many years in order to ensure that I had a nice home. My parents didn t intend to have children. She was 40 and he was 50 when they had a birth control failure.